9.19.26

It takes courage for me to say this. I go to 12 step meetings because they help me have more courage. They help me tell the truth, ask for help, and keep coming back to myself.

9.18.26

If you are addicted to avoiding yourself, you are also avoiding your life. Your feelings, your truth, your gifts, your grief, your voice. All of it is in there - you can't avoid only some of your feelings.

9.17.26

We spend so much energy trying to avoid hard feelings. Most of the healing is learning we can stay with them and not be destroyed.

9.16.26

Trust over fear is a mature way to live. It does not mean pretending life is easy. It means telling the truth, doing your part, and not letting fear run the whole show.

9.15.26

Learning to love yourself is not a cute little personal project. It changes how you show up in every room. It changes what you tolerate, what you give, and what you pass on.

9.14.26

12 step work helps you learn to love yourself in a real way. Not the fake self-love that sounds good online. The kind where you stop lying to yourself, stop controlling everyone, and start coming home to yourself. 

9.13.26

I am allowed to say your behavior is unacceptable to me. I am also allowed to stop arguing about it. My work is to care for what it brings up in me and choose what I need to do next.

9.12.26

You are allowed to say no without a long explanation. You are allowed to stop making your boundary comfortable for everyone else.

9.11.26

Grief does not go away.

We learn to live with the loss. 

9.10.26

Some of us are still waiting for the love, the effort, the apology, the call, the noticing. We are not wrong for wanting it. We may just need to grieve where it is not coming from and choose ourselves now.